Valentines in 19 days.
If you are companioned, I know you have scheduled something special. I know you are showing up every day as if it is V Day and and their birthday all in one.
I know you have standards, I know you have your eyes open. I know you would not settle, but suffice. I know you know your other is a human, and that humans are… works in process.
What do you see? Is your companion shining? Something radiant? Downright blinding? Do they show no wear, no rust, no batter, no rot? What are they polishing? Have they buffed for you at all?
If a person is a WIP, where is the work? There must be a chink or crack – why have they not shared this with you? Why are they not freely and eagerly showing you progress? Or potential pits that may trip you both?
I know you are no fool. I know it takes time to learn the ins and outs of another – in fact, forever as they grow. I know you want to know who your companion is. I know you want to feel secure, having seen all sides of your topic of adoration, having seen the strength and skill of your partner crafting themselves into something better.
I know you are unlikely in need of this reminder as we approach a holiday of romance and commitment. I know some might have a gleam in their eye – remember to shield the glare but a moment to give your partner the respect of inspection, that there exists a real vigor in place of any painted mannequin or mask. I know you will show the shadow of your own mask too and give your companion the security they are to give you.
Valentines is in 19 days. Give your idol 19 minutes of thought and close conversation – I know that is not too much to ask. It is OK to blink to see what is real.
Cheers to days and weeks and years of plenty ~
* Inspired by a conversation that if a too-good-too-be-true knight in shinging armor never doffs their presentation for you, what proof is there that not a doll or corpse or three-raccoons sit inside?
Jimmy Chattin 